Gay's shouldn't get Married?

If you think that way, it means you are hateful?

If someone doesn't agree with gay marriage, that does not mean they hate you! It makes sense why you would jump to that conclusion; you think they wouldn't want you to have equal rights under the law because they don't think you should get married. What if I told you most Christians who disagree with two men or two women marrying one another fought alongside you for your right to get married? It sounds like a contradiction, I know. Most individuals disagree with gay marriage because they believe marriage is a gift from God, and they believe God intended for one man and one woman. At the same time, they do not agree with Government control-- they do not think the government belongs anywhere near the family, the household, or marriage; most who disagree with you getting married would die for your right to get married.

Story Time:

Thanks for reading Jessy's Substack! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.

Subscribed

Imagine this: a gay couple (we'll call Sweet and his husband Sour) moves to a new neighborhood where 90% of the residents are Christian (with a few Muslims and Jewish folk). They move to the one block where everyone is a Christian. This block has monthly block barbecues: everyone (who lives on this block) gets direct invitations; surrounding blocks are welcome to join, too, and most bring family and friends. This couple never attended. The invitation was given to them because of an obligation: Sweet is a good man, and he is adored by the neighborhood (for the majority), while his husband, Sour, pretty much unanimously was despised.

One day, Sour came storming to the barbecue, demanding silly answers.

Sour raged, with flaring nostrils, "Why do you people keep inviting us to these things?" He slammed the invitation to the ground.

The woman he chose to yell at stood there stunned, watching the invite softly float to the ground. The woman didn't know what he wanted to hear. She spoke slowly. "This is. A block. Barbecue. You are. On the block. Are you? Not?"

After a back and forth, he blurts out: "You know we are gay. So, what is the game?"

Again, what is she supposed to say? "Was it supposed to be a secret? I gotta tell you. Making out with your husband in your front yard kind of gave it away."

Now he's madder. If he were a cartoon, steam would pour from his ears. He may have even melted from the heat. "If we were a straight couple, none of you people would bat an eyelash at us kissing in OUR yard."

She couldn't contain herself-- she began to laugh. "I would bet money no one here batted their eyes your way." She lowers her voice as if she were telling him a secret. "Everyone here knows what gay is. They also know some peeps are gay." She usually speaks again. "No one here lives under a rock."

He stands back in disbelief. He blurts out, "Oh, so no one here has a problem with gay marriage?"

The woman shakes her head. "I never said that."

He acts like he won. "So you are a bunch of homophobes." He gets closer to her. He menacingly towers over her.

The woman shakes her head. She is disappointed. "If you are trying to bait me into discriminating against you because you are gay, that will never happen. I'll discriminate against you because you are a jerk." She looks toward a few men talking in the distance, and she points. "If you don't back up, Imma call one of those real men over here to take care of you."

Again, he acts triumphant. "I'm not a real man because I'm gay."

But she was quick with a response. "No, you are not a real man because you are trying to intimidate a woman right now. Real men don't behave like this with ladies."

He swears at her. And then he expresses, "You all wear those hate symbols," referring to our crosses, "yet you stand here and lie to my face saying you don't discriminate against us because we are gay."

The woman was slightly upset; she said something along the lines of: "If you go around this party and ask everyone here if you agree with gay marriage, most of them will flat out explain they disagree with the concept. But go around again, and most of those same people who may disagree with gay marriage will tell you they fought for gay marriage. These people do not like government control. No one here will ever treat you less than just because you are gay. Disrespect Jesus and the cross, and you'll make enemies here. But if you are respectful, everyone else will also be respectful. Love doesn't have to die when we disagree!"

He didn't know what to say.

Already speechless, she decided to drop this: "And one of those real men I mentioned. He's gay. And a lot nicer than you."

That woman was me.

The word homophobic has lost its meaning. Disagreement is confused with disrespect nowadays. Homophobes are people who hold prejudice against gay people for the simple fact that they are gay; homophobes are individuals who will not tolerate the company of those who are gay. Regular people who disagree with the lifestyle are not homophobes! You may ask, what is the difference? Someone who is a homophobe will wish you harm because you are gay; these people will treat you differently and discriminate against you because you are gay. Those regular people who disagree with you being gay and living as a gay or lesbian (or anything else) will treat you the same as they treat everyone else (and they believe: give respect, get respect); these people still love you even if they disagree with your choices (even if you don't think it's a choice, those people believe you can choose to deny your feelings to follow Jesus). Whether you think you're not is irrelevant to how some people feel.

Remember: Everyone's Voice Matters!